Thursday, January 10, 2013

Healing in Progress

Today, the little girl had her first grief group session at school. It's a weekly group that lasts for about 25 minutes each time, to help children who have lost someone close to them cope. She really gave me hell over Christmas break about going...she didn't want anything to do with it, and she certainly didn't want to talk about her papa. And that's what worried me. She walked into the room one day when I was talking to one of the boys about papa, she got angry and said "Do we have to talk about him?!" and then stormed out crying. The holding it in worries me. As much as it breaks my heart to see her upset, I know that it will do more harm than good for her to hold it in like she has been.

She finally gave in and said she'd try it out. She got in the car this afternoon and says, "The group with Ms. Clinch (her school counselor) isn't about loss, mom! It's about being angry!." While trying to explain to her that being angry is often a part of losing someone, I pointed out how angry she was about papa "leaving her" just last week. Ultimately, she said that she liked the group (and then told me that when I tell her that she can't have a snack when she asks, sometimes...it makes her angry). I'm really hoping that this will help her cope with losing him. I'm trying the best I can, but there is only so much I can do when I'm trying to deal with it myself...and as we all know, sometimes it's better for someone on the outside to try to help.

Tomorrow will mark one month since dad has been gone. It doesn't seem possible. Now that the holidays are over and everything is getting back to normal, I've had more of a chance to process what happened. It was so much to take in in such a short amount of time. It almost feels like reliving it all over again. I'd give anything to have him back, but since I can't...I'll just be grateful once I feel that I've got a good grip on it.

Monday, January 7, 2013

7 days in...

And the New Year's resolutions are coming along well. I've been a hell of a lot more productive. I've redesigned the blog. And I've lost 2 lbs (not a lot, but enough to keep me going!).

One of my resolutions was to get the house in order and more organized. Slowly, but surely, it's coming along! Even I'm impressed with how on top of things I've been.

What do you guys think of the new blog design?

Meanwhile, things will be back to "normal" tomorrow. ZoeJane starts back to school, and just in time. She has had it with her little brothers. The girl is chomping at the bit to get away from them. Poor girl. Wish me luck. This week is going to be insane.