I'll be the first to admit that in 2009, I loved working outside of the house. Was it stressful? Yes. Exhausting? Of course. However, I think it is so important for women to have something for themselves away from their husbands and children. Not only can you make your own money (which may or may not be important for some women and couples), but it 1, it gets you out of the house. 2, If you spend the first 18 years of your child's life completely wrapped up in them and what they're doing...you're going to be lost when the time comes for them to leave the nest. 3, Who wouldn't love some adult interaction and time away from the laundry, toilet scrubbing, runny noses, and dirty diapers for at least a few hours a week? Talk about a way to maintain your sanity.
The thing is, while I love my babies and spending time with them...I never went into marriage or motherhood wanting to be a stay at home mom. Yes, it has ended up that way. But that was never the intent (clearly I was one of those people who severely underestimated how paranoid I'd be about other people watching my children and the cost of childcare). However, I've been working towards my degree, which will eventually land me a job good enough to keep me happy (most important) and pay for childcare (if necessary). I've always wanted a life outside of the house. And I think this is a very important lesson for my daughter (or daughters if this new bean turns out to be a girl). I've never thought that it was healthy for a girl to grow up thinking that her place is in the home-no ifs, ands, or buts. A girl needs to grow up knowing that she really can do anything she wants...anything that she wants enough to work for. So, in working towards a degree (even if a little late), I think I'm not only working towards making a life for myself, but also planting a seed for my children.
What are your thoughts on working with children at home? What route have you chosen? Do you have plans to change it?
Before I comment on your post I have to say that your writing skills are great girlie! I loved reading this. Ok..so as far as my opinion on the post...being in my position I have always envied stay at home moms, but perhaps it's because I have never been able to be one, so i've always wanted that. To me it's a dream..but maybe it's because i've never really had that option. I do think that a woman/girl should be taught that she can do anything that she wants to do when she grows up, as far as a career goes. I don't think it's good for girls to think they belong in the home, inless infact that is where there heart is, as far as raising children and being a full time stay at home mom. Anyways, keep these comin girlie!
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